- A narcissistic parent is someone who is incredibly controlling, possessive, self-centered, lacks empathy, and is manipulative of their child.
- They will brag about their children to inflate their own ego. If the conversation doesn’t benefit them in any way, they are uninterested.
- These parents dismiss their child’s feelings, but will be overly sensitive themselves and shift blame onto their children when possible.
- When dealing with a narcissistic parent its best to set clear boundaries, walk away when possible, and try not to take their behavior personally.
Being a parent is one of the hardest jobs in the world. It requires a lot of compassion, empathy, patience, and love — many traits you’d never find in a narcissist. So what happens when people with characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder, such as grandiosity, superiority, and entitlement become parents?
Psychologists refer to these people as narcissistic parents. It’s more than just bragging about kids or pushing them to their limit in extra curricular activities. It goes much deeper and can have serious, long-term effects on children. Here are the common signs of a narcissistic parent, as well as tips on how parents can change and what the children should do…
Use Kids as Validation and Portray a Superficial Image
It’s important to be supportive of children and cheer them on, but a narcissistic parent will take it to a whole other level. They will loudly flaunt when their child scores a goal or lands a big role in the school play. “You might see them constantly bragging online or bringing up their child’s beauty or talent in conversation,” writes psychologist Dr. Ramani Durvasula as a contributor for CNBC.
The saddest part is that unless supporting their child has to do with their achievements, they are checked out or uninterested. “They generally shame their child’s need for connection or validation, and instead see them as a tool to fulfill those needs for themselves,” writes the source.