Everyone encounters obstacles in their lives, has “off” days or times where everything seems to be going wrong. Some people roll with the punches while others become immobilized or don’t get back up at all. This has to do with a person’s resiliency and attitude and the frame of reference they use in life. Those with a negative outlook attract more negativity, viewing obstacles as problems while those with a positive outlook envision more creative solutions to obstacles by seeing them as opportunities.
How you “frame” your thoughts will influence how you think, feel and behave.”RE-framing” negative thoughts can help you move forward in life, yielding positive consequences. Let’s take a closer look at how to ‘re-frame” your thinking…
1. Observe your Negative Thoughts
People tend to use frames of reference in their day to day lives and when dealing with problems or obstacles. The first step is to become aware of your own limiting beliefs or negative thoughts. You need to pay attention to what you tell yourself when faced with a challenge. Examples of negative self-talk may include: “it’s no use, why bother, it’s easy for them but not for me…”
This type of negativity is unhelpful and contributes to a downward spiral of thinking which can be extremely damaging in the long run. Awareness of this type of thinking is the first step. The next step is to become aware of alternative frames of reference which you can use on a daily basis to enhance your life.